Some Things Don't Need to be Shared

I hope everyone is having a beautiful summer, filled with connection and joy. Lord knows we all need and deeply deserve it.

I've been traveling a bit the past month--I went on a magical retreat and then spent some beautiful quality time with my sister and her family who just moved back stateside. There has been so much joy and laughter as well as so much learning and growth for me this summer. And to be honest, I haven't felt much like sharing about it in my usual ways.

Earlier this summer I shared a series of instagram posts by the writer Lisa Olivera about remembering that it's ok to have a life offline. In fact, it's great to take the moments to just be present and soak it all in without the intention of sharing.

At first glance, this is a no-brainer for a Mindfulness teacher, right? But the truth is I sometimes find myself feeling like I HAVE to share, connect, and show up all the time or else my business will fail, I'll miss some opportunity, I'm not doing enough, or insert any other ego-based fear here.

I remember one moment on my retreat last month when I was overwhelmed by the beauty of the deserted beach I was on. Miles and miles of sand and ocean with no humans in any direction was a new kind of magic to experience and I felt like I had to figure out how to document it so I could share the feeling. I noticed the urge, and then heard a voice in my head say,

"Some things don't need to be shared. Some things can just be for us, in one moment, and that is enough."

I wrote it down in my journal and thought about it so much over the following days and weeks.

This belief that I need to share it all can also bleed into my thinking that just experiencing life isn't enough. In that moment on the beach, I felt some combination of fear, worry, and sadness that I wouldn't be able to hold onto this feeling, this memory. And then I remembered that THAT truth is a part of the inherent beauty of life. Impermanence. It's a pillar of the mindfulness practice where we work to accept the impermanence of our lives so we are free to soak up all the magic in each present moment. It's magic because it only exists this one time. Then it's gone, onto a new moment. Even a task we repeat each day will never truly be the same. It's not possible! How cool is that?

So I've continued to let myself practice accepting the impermanence of my life and travels. While I obviously took some cute pictures of my nieces (I'm not a monster), I also did my best to stay present and enjoy all the cute things they were doing, knowing that my experiencing it in that one moment was enough.

And when I got back home and didn't feel ready to share about any of it, I didn't share. I reminded myself that it IS ok to keep and have some things just for myself. It matters just as much, and maybe even more sometimes. And this week I felt called to share these thoughts about not sharing so I did! 😂

I hope you can find some joy in this one magic moment you are in right now.



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P.P.S.- I did a podcast episode with one of my teachers all about healing the root chakra which holds our family lineage, sense of safety & security, belief systems, all the good stuff. Scroll down for more info!